Coping Skills: The 4 Agreements

Four Guidelines for a Better Outlook

Freedom

The Four Agreements is all about creating happiness and the “dream of heaven” here on earth. What Ruiz believes is that based on personal agreements, most people live in state of hell; but, by breaking many of those agreements and creating four new agreements, we can leave hell and enter our own personal heaven – we can have heaven here on earth. The four agreements that he believes will lead to this personal power are (as cited from the book):

Be Impeccable With Your Word:

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally:

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don’t Make Assumptions:

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best:

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.. What Ruiz believes is that based on personal agreements, most people live in state of hell; but, by breaking many of those agreements and creating four new agreements, we can leave hell and enter our own personal heaven – we can have heaven here on earth. The four agreements that he believes will lead to this personal power are (as cited from the book):